Heaven help females scorned.....especially if they are 10 and 11 years old? This weekend at our house Rebecca has one her good friends over for the weekend. I will call her "C". Well, as all good middle school drama starts they both had planned to do a lot of talking about their boyfriends (Becca's is harmless because he doesn't even go to her school, and their entire "relationship" career has been her sitting at his baseball games watching him play).
C started off with the news that she had broken up with her boyfriend this week because he was kind of being a jerk to her, and giving her the silent treatment. This was because he had heard she like someone else. She decided if he was going to not even fight for her, he was not worth it. I really like C's philosophy. Of course she came bearing the bad news with her (since Rebecca's boyfriend goes to her school) that he wanted it passed by C to Becca that it was over.
My first thought is they are way to young for any of this. My second thought, is that it happened no matter their maturity, and the good parent thing to do is guide them through it correctly. Like any good death of a middle school romance Becca had the following stages of grief.
1st reaction: "That's cool"
2nd reaction 15 minutes later: "C, lets go to my room"
I left them alone for about 20 minutes to give them some crying time...but instead when I went back there Becca was ripping apart all shreds of evidence about the boy. Journal entries, and anything containing his name were in snow of paper on her bedroom floor. I am all about healthy anger...you go girl!
3rd reaction: back in the living room for about an hour of silence and a head resting on C's shoulder. Kind of watching TV...kind of staring thoughtfully. I guess we are in the reflection stage.
4th reaction: OK my Becca is back in full form. She and C immediately start lining up the next boy for the job. Becca starts discussing the merits of other boys who like her, but would not approach her because she was taken. I do my job and remind them that as powerful and strong women we do not need a man to fulfill us. Their response; " well yeah.....but it sure is fun to have one!" I kind of have to agree.
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